Soul Mates?

How do you know if you have found your soul mate? Every man that I have been
with has cause me nothing but pain, and frustration. I can't really trust a man
anymore. They lie, cheat, and just try to control you and degrade you. Anyways
Here are some tips to know if you have your soul mate:
1) Life is easy when you're together. (If you fight alot, then he/she isn't the one.)

2) He/she is a mirror of you: some traits are like you and some traits compliment yours. (If you are with or want someone totally different than you, like stronger, richer, etc., he/she isn't the one.}
3) The timing when you met seems perfect. (If either of you are married, going off to war, or moving, he/she isn't the one.)

4) You mutually respect each other. (If either of you is disrespectful, abusive, or critical, he/she's not the one.)

5) Something bonds you deeply and causes a feeling of familiarity, i.e. you grew up similarly or both have a certain passion in life. (This doesn't mean he feels familiar because he reminds you of your controlling father; if there isn't a special bond that's healthy, he/she isn't the one.)

6) Your values are similar. (You don't have to agree on everything, but if basic beliefs like religion and politics are similar, he/she isn't the one.)

7) You have definite chemistry. (If you're not physically attracted, he/she isn't the one. A special note here that sexual addiction is not an indicator that he/she is your soul mate.)

8) Communication flows easily. (If it feels like the two of you are seldom on the same wave length, he/she's not the one.)

9) The relationship feels equal. (If one person has more power or is rescuing the other, he/she's not the one.

10)You have similar goals. (If your goals on money, fun, marriage, and life in general are quite different, he/she is not the one.)

11)You adore each other, even each other's idiosyncrasies. (If either of you criticizes the other, he/she isn't the one.)

12)The love is completely reciprocal. (If the love is one-sided, he/she isn't the one.)

They say you never find your soul mate until you stop looking. I don't
look and for some reason I haven't been so lucky. The one I got now
is very controlling, likes to treat me like a child, doesn't want me
to work, like to get me things then when he is mad he takes them
back. I don't feel like he loves me at all. So I know he's not the
one for me.